People assume that I was in the closet because I didn’t disclose that I was assigned male at birth. What people are really asking is ‘Why didn’t you correct people when they perceived you as a real woman?’ Frankly, I’m not responsible for other people’s perceptions and what they consider real or fake. We must abolish the entitlement that deludes us into believing we have the right to make assumptions about people’s identities and project those assumptions onto their gender and bodies.
It is not a woman’s duty to disclose she’s trans to every person she meets. This is not safe for a myriad of reasons. We must shift the burden of coming out from trans women, and accusing them of hiding or lying, and focus on why it is unsafe for women to be trans.
Yeah, it is “bitchy,” I guess. But a comment from a complete stranger about how they want to cuddle and kiss me - BUT NOT SEXUALLY, as if that’s a thing - is creepy, unwarranted and unwelcome. I responded to it publicly, as I do from time to time, to remind the general public that that shit does not fly with me. I usually just delete those messages, and I get a surprising number of them for someone who has anonymous comments turned off.
Maybe I’m “bitchy,” but it’s a hell of a lot better than acting like being fifty shades of creepy is a compliment.
Sexual fantasy is one of my favorite subjects. Always has been. Always will be. I turn sex into an art form and promote its magic every day as an erotica writer when I put pen to page and this amazing book is an inspiration for new ideas I’ll keep coming back to over and over again.Dr. Carol Queen, in The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy (via cleispress)
You know, the one that gives housewives/full-time mothers a pension— wages for housework?
It’s ONLY A HUGE VICTORY FOR FEMINISM, SOCIALISM, AND WOMEN OF COLOR. Not a big deal or anything. Tumblr is mysteriously silent about this.